Saturday, November 3, 2012

One of my weekend prayers

In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.


Please, Lord,

As I speak at the Masses this weekend,
I pray that you fill me with your spirit.

Please help me deliver your message of faith.

Please grant me the serenity to help me to focus less on my own insecurities
And more on the message that needs to be heard:

There are more than 147,000,000 orphans in the world.

Please, Lord,
Let my words of our family’s experience flow with the Grace that only you can give

Ignite a fire in my heart with the kindle of your love,

And give me the sufficient words to inspire families to care for and adopt your children.

Please, Oh Lord,
I pray that Daniel’s story touches lives and opens hearts this weekend.

In your name.

Amen.

Friday, November 2, 2012

A Month of Love

November is National Adoption Month. Could you open your heart to one of these children?

Thursday, November 1, 2012

A Daniel day

Today has been one of those Holy-spirit filled, Daniel kinda days.  I love these days, especially because I'm reminded--through some amazing moments--that Daniel still lives.

Part One
While Charlie and I were getting ready to walk into our St. Vincent playgroup this morning, I took a call from Peggie, the director at First United Methodist Church (you may remember the church, and Peggie, mentioned in the book).

"Do you have a minute?" she asked.

Peggie began to tell me that she had taken her Mother-in-Law to the hospital yesterday and how she was feeling all "woe is me" because her Halloween was completely tied up with a doctor's visit. But, she'd brought her copy of With an Open Heart along to help with the wait, and she carried it in her arms.

"What are you reading?" the nurse asked her with curiosity.

Peggie said, "Oh, it's a book that one of my preschool moms wrote about her son, Daniel. He was a blue baby that they'd adopted from China. They took him in for his open-heart surgery, but he didn't make it."

The nurse, apparently, was stopped in her tracks.

"I have a son named Daniel," she said, "and he was a blue baby."  "He's had four open-heart surgeries, and he's now in his twenties!"

Peggie said that the nurse--who seemed filled with faith--couldn't contain her goosebumps as she listened to more about Daniel, and she could hardly wait to read the book. The nurse also mentioned that she planned to make every nurse in the hospital read it.

Of course, I couldn't contain my goosebumps after taking that phone call!

Part Two
When we walked into playgroup, I was introduced to a new member of our group, Susi, who brought her two little ones to play.

About halfway through the play date, she and I finally had a chance to chat. We talked about our kids for a few moments, and then she revealed that her sister-in-law knows me.  She mentioned that her son was baptized two weeks back at St. Vincent's, and that her brother-in-law (her son's Godfather) and his wife flew in from MD for the baptism.

Susi's sister-in-law, who just happened to see the ad in the church bulletin for my book signing on November 11th, took one look at the picture of the book cover, and said, "I know her! We know that family!"

Turns out, the Godparents were in our China travel group when we adopted Charlie!  They adopted an adorable little boy themselves! We had even dined with them on our trip!

Is that crazy??  It was Susi's sister-in-law who'd suggested that she start attending the church playgroup with her children. And that's how we met today.  Only God.  I am amazed that With an Open Heart made this connection! 

Friday, October 26, 2012

Listening Up↑

Have you ever had an experience that made you realize we are all probably just one conversation away from something really powerful?  That if we just listen for the Holy Spirit's direction, amazing things can happen? In the book, I write much about the Holy Spirit's involvement during Daniel's life, and it never ceases to amaze me when I am blessed with one of those moments.

Which happened last night.

Let me back up to yesterday afternoon. I took Madi over to my friend Carrie's house to play with her girls. Carrie told me that she was planning to go to a special reconciliation Mass last night. So I spontaneously invited myself to go with her (we're tight like that).

She picked me up promptly at 6:30, and we headed over to the church. When we arrived, the parking lot appeared empty, but we didn't question it. As we approached the church, we saw a well put-together looking lady with a cheerful smile and a warm aura about her. She asked if we were there for the Mass, and we introduced ourselves. Her name was Erin.

Erin seemed distressed, to say the least. She indicated, through our conversation, that she was having a really difficult time finding a faith community in her area that shared her same beliefs and convictions. Erin said she's in desperate need of spiritual guidance, and that God is calling her to do something, but she continues to hit road blocks. In fact, this was the second time Erin had driven to our area from her residence, which was about forty-five minutes away. And ironically enough, that last time was when Hurricane Wilma hit. Mass had been canceled then, and we began to have the feeling that Mass was canceled, once again, due to our area's severe weather.  Carrie tried calling someone who would know more, but there was no answer.

As we stood there perplexed, I said to them both, "Well then, there must be a reason that we are here tonight."

I knew immediately that Carrie would be able to put her in touch with some people who could help with her spiritual guidance. Then, Erin asked us if we knew her friends who were supposed to meet her there. She described them as a local family with nine children. Who had lost a son.

I was stunned. I asked questions about her friend's son and his death. Upon hearing the story, I just couldn't resist, and I gave her my card about With an Open Heart.

I divulged that I, too, had lost a son.

Now it was Erin who looked stunned. As she took the card from my hand, she revealed that she had also lost a son.

Our eyes filled with tears, and we hugged. We began to realize that perhaps it was no accident that the three of us were standing there alone in that parking lot.

She told us the beautiful story of her baby boy, who was born missing a part of his brain. The way Erin described her sweet, precious child, we knew that he was nothing short of a miracle. She and her family gave him nine months of unconditional love before he went to Heaven. And he died nine times in her arms before he passed.  She claims to have seen Christ many times throughout her son's life, and her story has led to numerous conversions.

Awesome.

Erin then spoke of her desire to start a Catholic palliative care program for babies. A program that would send sick babies on their way to Heaven knowing the power and the touch of love before their departure.

Sign me up.  Perhaps I've just discovered something I'm supposed to do in Daniel's memory.

We stood there talking for about thirty minutes--and in our "severe" weather--we received not a drop of rain.  Until, of course, I pointed out that God had spared us from the rain, so that we could converse. Almost immediately after my statement, the skies opened up, and it began to rain.  Carrie and I said our goodbyes to Erin and promised to keep in touch.

As Carrie and I drove away--in sheer awe--her phone rang. It was the woman she'd tried to call earlier returning her call.

Mass hadn't been canceled at all. It had taken place on Wednesday. The three of us were there together on the wrong night.

What are the chances?  No accidents...

To be continued.

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

FUMCBB fundraiser

I am excited to take part in an "Ice Cream Social" fundraiser for First United Methodist Church of Boynton Beach this Thursday evening. I will have a table there dedicated to the book and will donate to the school for each copy purchased. 

The goal is raise money to purchase new equipment for the preschool's playground. And since Charlie will be a student there next year, this fundraiser is an act of kindness that we will benefit directly from.

Bonus.

This fundraising event was the idea of a young woman named Lindsey. She and her husband own a photography business, and they rent photo booths for events. They are graciously donating their photography equipment--and their time--to take family portraits for a mere $10.00 donation to the school.

First United Methodist Church and Preschool have been such a huge part of our family's journey, and they are even mentioned in the book. The school administrator and the teachers were so attentive to Madi while Daniel was in the hospital. 

And they grieved with our family when we lost our son.

The school and church congregation continue, to this day, to collect pop tabs for the Ronald McDonald House in Daniel's memory. I find that simply amazing. Such proof that Jesus lives in the hearts of so many.

Daniel would have been a VPK student there this year.

If you are local and would like to come for ice cream between 6 p.m. and 8 p.m this Thursday, please email me, and I will happily RSVP for you!

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Women of Faith

With an Open Heart is one of the titles that will be featured at the upcoming Women of Faith Conference in Kansas City, Missouri on November 2nd and 3rd.

You will find our story in the new BookStub Gallery, where they will give away 50 free downloads of the e-book format.

To me, this is a really big deal. Because this conference is attended by approximately 15,000 women of faith. I'm not sure I could find a more appropriate audience for Daniel's story.

So, if you happen to be traveling to Kansas City for the conference, please stop by and grab a BookStub!  But please hurry...because (hopefully) they'll go quick!

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

The Bee's Knees



I recently received a message from Suzanne, the owner of The Bee's Knees Learn & Play in Delray Beach.  Suzanne graciously asked if I would like to put some of my books on their shelves.

It was kind of a "God thing," because I haven't seen Suzanne in years. Not since before Madi was in school, and we used to play there on a regular basis.

Her contact stirred up some unexpected and warm memories.

Because I remembered that I used to go there with Madi when we were waiting for Daniel's arrival. And we almost always went with our friend, Vanessa, and her children.

While the kids played, I would bend Vanessa's ear about Daniel, about our excitement of his arrival, and about our plans for his surgery and his life with us. I could hardly wait to see him running around The Bee's Knees with his big sister.

It was a magical time, filled with hope and anticipation.

Like waiting for Jesus.

So three years later, I find it quite ironic that our son is not running around The Bee's Knees. But his story is.

And hopefully he'll open some hearts there...